Ketubot 63 - September 7, 11 Elul

Today's daf is sponsored by Miriam and Lana Kerzner, Dov and Elayne Greenstone and families in loving memory of Denny Lock, beloved brother of Mitzi Geffen. "With love and much comfort from your cousins in Israel and abroad." Today's daf is sponsored by Suri Davis-Stern for the yahrzeit of her grandfather, Rabbi Chaim Davis, HaRav Chaim ben Nesanel who brought daf yomi to the five towns in 1974 at the White Shul. May his neshama have an aliyah. Rabbi Akiva was the shepherd of a rich man, Kalba Savua and married his daughter, Rachel, secretly, much to the chagrin of her father. Rachel wanted him to go to study and even after he came back after 12 years, he heard her tell someone else that he wished he would study more and therefore he went to learn for another 12 years. The story is a story of a rabbi who goes away from home successfully as it was the wish of his wife, as opposed to the other stories. Rabbi Akiva’s daughter did the same as her mother with Ben Azai. The Gemara ends the series of stories with Rav Yosef, son of Raba who went to study and returned in the middle of the time set for him on the eve of Yom Kippur to see his wife and Raba was angry with him. What is the ruling for a woman who rebels against her husband? What is the ruling for a man who rebels against his wife? According to the Mishna, we push off the divorce in other to see if there is a way to compromise and save the marriage. The Gemara asks what is considered "to rebel"? Is it by refusing to have marital relations or by refusing to do her jobs in the house? Although the law for an is spelled out in the Mishna, the rabbis changed the law and shortened the way to divorce in a case of rebellion. There were different opinions on whether to follow as stipulated in the Mishna or as to the change the rabbis made. If a woman says that her husband is "disgusting to me," does that fall into the religion of a rebel or is it something else? Why would there be a difference?