Ep. 30: Piercings, Hot Ex Sex, and Whether to Keep Quiet About a Potentially Cheating Fiancé

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I am really hoping you can advise me on this because I honestly don’t know what else to do. A very good friend of mine is about to get married. They seem very happy but I recently saw her fiancé having dinner with another woman. They were having a very intense conversation and, at one point, he held her hand across the table. (I was in the same restaurant but hidden from his view.) I don’t know whether to mention this to my friend or not. It might have just been a close female friend but my gut instinct is that it was more than that. Do I tell her what I saw or keep quiet?The chemistry I had with an ex is unbeatable. I’ve had so many relationships since then but it’s not the same. How do I have this feeling again with someone else?Out of the blue, my boyfriend of 18 months announced that he wanted to have a piercing. He also suggested I might have a ‘matching’ piercing myself. Once I’d gotten over the surprise, I did a bit of research. While I was a bit intrigued (these piercings can be kinda hot) there are downsides. Healing can be tricky and you can’t have intercourse for several weeks afterwards. So I said a gentle no. He then went quiet on me for a few days before saying it was his body and he still wanted to get his piercing, but he fully accepted I wouldn’t do the same. He added he wouldn’t do it if I was really, really against it. This has left me in a dilemma. Apart from being taken aback by his request (I’d no idea he had this type of kink) I don’t want such a long pause in having intercourse. I love it! It’s all put a bit of a rift between us. Should I just tell him to get it done?  And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.