S3 Ep. 4: How Do I Know if My Partner is Still Watching Porn, Do 'Sex Dates' Work, and I Don't Trust Men After My Father's Affair

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My partner of six years and I used to have really good sex but it’s dropped off considerably as time goes on. We used to be grabbing at each other all the time but that’s disappeared and now it’s all too easy to let other things take priority. Would planning a day when we do it help us get back on track or does it turn sex into a something you tick off the ‘to-do’ list?2) I am certain my partner watches porn but he won’t admit it to me. I made it clear at the start of the relationship that if I found out he watched it while with me, it’s over. We have sex often so why would he need to look at other women? I find it insulting that I am not enough. He knows I am on the warpath so he clears his history and changes his password on his phone. I can’t admit that I know this without admitting that I’m snooping. How do I get him to truly stop and how will I truly know when he has?3) I’m 34 and having real problems with relationships. I don’t trust men at all, even though none of the people I’ve been with have ever cheated on me. It’s because my father had an affair. The affair broke my mother and the pain and devastation it caused has left its mark on all of us. My siblings also struggle with trust issues. Any advice on how to get past this?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.