Breaking the Negative Cycle

In the first episode of The Secure Love Podcast, we meet Melissa and Drew, a couple navigating the complexities of their relationship. Melissa opens up about her experience of anger and shutdown when she feels disconnected from Drew during stressful times. As she describes her attempts to avoid confrontation and the eventual buildup of frustration, Drew shares his own sense of helplessness and shutdown in response to her anger. Join us as Melissa and Drew delve into the vulnerable place of anger and its role in their longing for emotional connection. Julie's main goal for this first session is to help Melissa and Drew understand and break their negative cycle. Through their candid conversation, they begin to understand each other's experiences and find relief in expressing their feelings. This episode offers insights into how anger can be a desperate attempt for connection and how shutting down is a way to regulate pain. Discover how putting words to feelings can pave the way for reconnection and a deeper understanding in relationships. Stay connected with us: Follow Julie Menanno on social media @thesecurerelationship. Visit Julie's website The Secure Relationship for all information on upcoming workshops and access to resources. Purchase Julie's book Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime